Finding Your Roar: The Power of Non-Negotiables
How often have you felt a whisper inside—a nudge that something isn’t quite right—only to have it drowned out by the noise of expectation, obligation, or the fear of rocking the boat?
For too many women, finding their voice isn’t about discovering something new, but about clearing away the debris that’s been muffling it for far too long.
The truth is, your voice is already there. It resides within your deepest values—the core principles that shape who you are and how you navigate the world. The key to unlocking it lies in understanding and honoring your non-negotiables.
What Are Non-Negotiables?
They are the lines in the sand you refuse to cross. They are the fundamental beliefs and ethical standards that guide your decisions, no matter how tempting or convenient it might be to compromise.
Identifying these isn’t always easy. It requires honest self-reflection—a deep dive into what truly matters to you.
Ask yourself:
What principles am I unwilling to compromise on, even if it means facing discomfort or making difficult choices?
What values are so integral to my sense of self that violating them would feel like a betrayal?
What kind of environment do I need to thrive, and what behaviors or situations are absolutely unacceptable to me?
Living Your Non-Negotiables
Once you’ve identified your non-negotiables, the real work begins—standing by them.
This isn’t always easy. It may mean saying "no" to opportunities that seem perfect on the surface but clash with your inner compass. It may involve having uncomfortable conversations, setting firm boundaries, or even making major life changes.
Take me, for example. I landed what many would consider a dream job in the vibrant city of Chicago. I was excelling, making an impact, and enjoying the energy of my work.
But a shift occurred when external forces began imposing unethical and illegal practices on my department. For me, integrity and ethical conduct were non-negotiable.
Despite the allure of my “dream job,” I knew I couldn’t stay in an environment that forced me to compromise my values. It was a difficult decision—one that brought uncertainty and fear of the unknown. But by standing firm in my non-negotiables, I chose to align my external reality with my internal truth.
I chose my voice.
And the result? I stepped down—with no regrets.
Choosing Your Voice Isn’t Selfish—It’s Self-Respect
This act of honoring your non-negotiables isn’t selfish.
It’s a powerful act of self-respect that radiates outward.
When you operate from a place of genuine alignment, you bring your most authentic self to the table. You become a stronger leader, a more reliable friend, and a more grounded individual.
And as you rise—as you find your voice and stand in your truth—remember this powerful mantra:
Lift as you rise.
Your journey isn’t just about your own empowerment. It’s about creating a world where more women feel safe and encouraged to find and use their own voices. By upholding your non-negotiables, you set an example, create space, and inspire others to do the same.
Keep Finding Your Voice
Finding your voice is not a destination—it’s a continuous journey.
It requires ongoing self-awareness, courage, and a commitment to honoring your inner compass.
Identify your non-negotiables. Stand by them fiercely.
And watch as your authentic voice guides you toward a life of greater integrity, power, and fulfillment.
And as you rise, remember to lift those around you.
Together, our voices will create a chorus of strength and truth.